Tuesday, March 17, 2009

I'm Normal

Or at least, that's what I found out today when I went for the HSG. Such a relief. It took me forever to get to Columbus Circle--the F-train was at its worst and then I had to wait a while, compounding my anxiety. But my doctor was great, even though the test is painful and humiliating, and told me that everything looked good. Of course, hormones and other levels may not be so great, but I'll take the positive where I can get it. My dear friend Nicole and her adorable 9 month old son, Dashiell, met me and we went to Whole Foods for coffee, before walking through Central Park in the sun to get to the F-train (finally, a spring day!). After picking up bagels at Terrace Bagels, I got home and now, exhausted, I'm catching up with email and cuddling a purring little miss Peeps.

Thank you so much for your all your kind wishes. I'm still a long way from motherhood and have lots of other fun tests ahead, but at least this milestone is behind me. I'll try to post pictures of Sylvestre tonight.

16 comments:

erica said...

oh that's so good to hear. of course it can still be a long hard road, but at least something is crossed off the list of culprits.

i just found out that my 23 year old sister in law and her husband are considering adoption, having tried unsuccessfully for 3 years to have a baby. they are so young, still, but i can imagine how heartbreaking it's been for them so far.

on a lighter note, i am green with envy about your Sylvestre, it will be so beautiful for spring!

Biscuit said...

this is great news, moya! keep thinking positive thoughts; you have such a great attitude about everything.

i also can't wait to see syvestre!

Moya said...

Thank you Susie and Erica. I am relieved that I have some good news--although I suspect some of my blood tests won't be as upbeat. Still, I'm moving forward and hope a baby will come sooner rather than later.

My sister-in-law and brother are also considering adoption. After 11 years of trying (they married directly out of college and started trying immediately), they have tested OK but there is no baby. I think they'll go for IVF but I know it has been heartbreaking. I do hope something works out for your sister-in-law, Erica. Sometimes even the thought of adoption can help people conceive.

I'll try and get pictures of Sylvestre up tonight. Right now, I am just way too exhausted to do very much at all.

joyce said...

that must be such a relief for you. one step at a time. i'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.

on an unrelated, though also positive, note: eluxury just marked down their holiday stock down by 40%. i got the melia in 8! the picture shows the white multi, but the description says black multi. i want the black. has anyone ordered from them and if so, which color is the dress really? and moya, i think i'm exactly one size down from you in mayle. which size did you end up getting in melia?

Moya said...

Thank you Joyce. I just read the HSG test can even temporarily increase fertility, which would be nice.

As for Melia, I ended up getting the 10, although the 8 fitted. I though I needed the extra room just to move easily and make it a comfortable dress. I got my Melia from Mayle, but I know they sold out of the black. I think the only items on Elux that Mayle are out of are the Melia in black, the Zora and Asina, so you did really well. The others will, I think, almost certainly be in the Mayle sample sale.

Marti said...

Moya, I have my fingers crossed for you. I have some friends who have bee trying to have a second child and its been incredibly tough for them. I cant even imagine what you are going through! I will think positive thoughts.

Moya said...

Thank you so much, Marti. It is so tough--the toughest thing I've ever tried to do. Everything else I've done--the Ph.D., publications, career--the effort paid off. So far, I've tried everything and given up caffeine and alcohol and nothing has worked. Hopefully that will change soon.

LivKate said...

Moya,

I am so pleased to hear that good news. I truly hope that you find yourself pregnant soon!!!

lorochills said...

moya-just to share a story if for nothing else but inspiration..my husbands cousin's wife tried for many years to conveive a child..about 2 miscarriages...in the end she ended up using someone else's egg and her husbands and she (not sure about the name of the procedure) ended up giving birth and now he is 3 and healthy... she has been trying for sometime after that and finally just told everyone that she is over 3 months...the doctors thought that she would not be able to carry from her own egg but see miracles do happen...it is a long road as i also have cousins that have been trying for 5 years and are now considering surrogacy...good things happen to good people...and again miracles are real...i am happy to hear that it was okay today

pine said...

it will work out, moya. keep faith, wear your pretty dresses and think bright, happy thoughts. you also have a great partner who will be with you each step, a blessing. i hope you can wear your harumi soon...

in a mayle lighter thought, my tama size 4 arrived after I returned a 8 for being too big, and i was going to return the 4 too, but then now am tempted to keep it. it's high neck but quite elegant and so well made. a bit tight underarm, i wonder if that kind of tightness is alter-able...

Unknown said...

Kim - where did you find the Tama?

pine said...

tama was not a very popular dress, so you should be able to locate one, i would think. i ordered mine from e-luxury weeks ago but only just got the package since i've been out of town. i just returned the size 8 and got the size 4 from them instead. they run big. the fit is a bit odd. i am mostly concerned about the under the arm tightness...has anyone altered that before? i know it's easier to go from big to small than from small to big. it fits perfectly everywhere else, except the slight pull in the arms, which i can either ignore or find annoying, thus never wear...

Cindy said...

Moya, this is such wonderful news! I can't imagine how you must feel as you're going through all of this. I am sure that your experiences will make you an even better mother. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you!

C L said...

Moya,
It will work out -
Glad to hear everything is normal.
now relax and enjoy your Mayle dress and the spring weather!

Julie said...

I am very happy to hear your news! Continued good thoughts to you.

Cindy said...

I didn't notice till now, but is baby Dashiell named after Dashiell Hammett?! That's such a brilliant name! Speaking of which, have you ever read Lillian Hellman's 'An Unfinished Woman' or watched 'The Thin Man' series? I love, love, love Dashiell Hammett and crew.